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          Taking responsibility 
Who can I blame if I don't make it in life? 
Who is responsible for my failure? 
Your ability to accept responsibility for your life are essential to success. Accepting responsibility is very hard, but without it, no success is possible. Until you know that this is your life, you are not rehearsing for someone else. You are the main character, as in a play. Until you change, nothing else is going to change. No one else is going to do it for you. No one cares how you end up in life. When you are a child, your parents are in charge. They make all the decisions. You have little choice or control. But now you are not a child anymore, but you still feel someone else is still responsible for your life, I pity you.
Most people believe that if Something goes wrong, someone else is responsible. someone else is guilty. So they give excuse for things in their life's, that make them unhappy.
If you think for any reason that others are better than you, You unconsciously assume that you must be worst than they are. If they worth more then you worth less. Anytime we are not happy, we look around and ask, who's to blame?
As Christians we believe that whenever something goes wrong, the devil is to blame. The devil is guilty. This leads to the feeling of irresponsibility.
People go to court demanding compensation, even if they are at fault for what happened. People don't want to accept responsibility. They fail their exams and blame the lecturers. They fail jamb, they blame the computer. People spill hot coffee on themselves and sue the fast food restaurant that sold them the coffee.
You can only be happy when you get rid of negative emotions. And negative emotions arises from your ability to blame someone or something for things that go wrong in your life. Take responsibility for everything you become, and everything that happens to you. It is very easy to blame someone for things that goes wrong. Some even blame inanimate objects. They hit leg on stone and blame the stone. If they make mistake someone or something else must take the blame.
Solution
Whenever something goes wrong in your life, quickly neutralize the negative feeling and say, "I am responsible". You wipe out any other thought at that moment. If you accept responsibility you won't be angry, you will be looking for a way to correct the mistake. You can use your intelligence to blame others for things you are not happy about, or you can use your intelligence to find reasons why you are responsible and take actions to solve the problem.
Many of our problems in life have to do with money: earning it, spending it, loosing it. So we always blame people for lack of money. However, the fact is that you are responsible for your financial life. If you don't have money is your fault. So don't blame your financial problems on other people. You are in charge. Stop blaming people. You can let go and begin thinking instead about your goals and your future.
Helen Keller said, "when you turn towards the sunshine, the shadows fall behind you."
Take 100% responsibility for everything that happens to you. Refuse to make excuse or blame other people for anything. Instead, say, "I am responsible," and make necessary amendment. Do things that will make you achieve your set goals. Don't engage in things that lead nowhere. Remember losers give excuse winners make progress.
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